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Self-Care

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We all lead busy, hectic, time-pressured lives these days. Many of our clients admit to feeling as though they are dropping the ball in their marriage, with their kids, with family, and at work. There simply don’t seem to be enough hours in the day to be everything to everyone who needs something from us.
 
This is especially true for those who identify caregiving as a primary function in their relationships. For these folks, it is critical to recognize and honor your personal limits, and know when to step back and exercise healthy self-care. 
 
Recognizing the value of taking good care of yourself and learning how to set boundaries in your life are just a couple of the tasks of appropriate self-care. If the idea of taking good care of yourself seems foreign to you, a caring professional counselor can help you to become aware of—and honor—those needs.
Counseling Insights and Articles About Self-Care:
6 Steps For Building Resilience And Preventing PTSD In 2023, by Dave Papandrea
Finding Christmas Joy
, by Tonya Ratliff
Could A Mindfulness Practice Benefit YOU?, by Sherrie Darnell
Moms: Can Your Empty Nest Grow Full Again?, by Deb Toering
You Spot It, You Got It, by Sherrie Darnell
Is It Me?  Maladaptive Coping Strategies in the Fire Service, by Dave Papandrea
The Mind-Body Connection Series: How to Get the Most of Your Sleep, by Liza Hinchey
Looking Forward To 2021, by Deb Toering
Good Riddance 2020, by Kathy Cap
Why Everyone Can Benefit From A Mindfulness Practice​, by Liza Hinchey
Finding Encouragement In The Small Moments, by Wendy Warner
Your Brain Is Hardwired To Protect You, Not To Be Productive, by Liza Hinchey
In This Time Of Uncertainty..., by Kathy Cap
2020: A Year Of Gratitude And Intention, by Kathy Cap
Whether You Think You Can Or You Can't... You're Right, by Kathy Cap
Parenting, But It's Not What You Think I Mean,
 by Liza Hinchey
Is That Bully Still beating You Up?, 
by Deb Toering
An Empowering Approach To Internalized Beliefs, 
by Liza Hinchey
In The Season Of Giving, Let's Remember To Give To Ourselves, 
by Liza Hinchey
Mindfulness - Why It Works, by Liza Hinchey
Shame. The Silent Killer., by Deb Toering
How Do You Define YOU?, by Tonya Ratliff
Social Media Can Be Hazardous to Your Mental Health, by Deb Toering
The Need for a Little Quiet in Your Day, by Tonya Ratliff
Who Am I, Really?, by Deb Toering
Self-Care is Not Self-ish, by Tonya Ratliff

Moms: Can Your Empty Nest Grow Full Again?

8/28/2022

 
by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC, BCPCC
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Deb Toering is a Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor (BCPCC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with a wide range of client populations and presenting issues, Deb is also an engaging public speaker. She has spoken in front of various groups across a range of topics including marriage, bullying, ADHD/ADD, and teen leadership.
For some of you, you have spent years raising your kids with the goal of them becoming mature, responsible and independent adults. You may have recently had your last child leave the nest and now it feels quiet, lonely and empty. Your husband may be happy because now he has you all to himself. But for you, this is a new normal that does not feel normal. It is too quiet. You are left alone with more time on your hands; not sure how to fill it or how to find your new purpose.
 
In the realm of nature, a nest is a structure or place made or chosen by a bird for laying eggs and sheltering its young. For us, our nest is not only our homes that we have made, but our lives, our circle of influence, our purpose.
 
Could there be a new purpose for your nest? Could it become more of a haven for your marriage; a safe place where you and your spouse can come home to and feel loved? Could it be a place where neighbors, friends and family come to feel welcomed, valued and loved? Those extra bedrooms can be transformed into guest rooms, a workout space, hobby room, or even rooms for visiting grandchildren if you are so blessed to have them.
 
Take advantage of the quiet to reflect on this next phase of life. Time for reading, hobbies, new interests, cultivation of new friendships, perhaps a new career or more time to focus on the career you have.
 
Take some time to grieve if that is what you feel. Reflect on what was; what you loved, what was difficult, what you wish you could have done differently. Maybe there is a strained relationship with an adult child that needs attention and healing. Now is the time to make those relationships right. Now is the time to stop beating yourself up for mistakes you may have made. Recognize that you did the best you knew how at the time.
 
After a time of reflection, it is time to begin this new and exciting phase of life. Try something new. You might like it! You might find that your nest is filling back up in new and wonderful ways!


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  • Home
  • Areas of Specialization
    • Christian Counseling
    • Emotional Management
    • Self-Care
    • Relationships and Marriage
    • Grief and Loss
    • Family Counseling
    • Divorce
    • Remarriage and Blended Families
    • Parenting Counseling
    • Children and Adolescents Counseling
    • ADHD Counseling
    • Groups
  • Our Counselors
    • Tonya Ratliff
    • Deb Toering
    • Wendy Warner
    • Liza Hinchey
    • Dave Papandrea
    • Sherrie Darnell
    • Shelley Kruszewski
  • The Intern Option
  • LLC Supervision
  • Fees