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Emotional Management

Suffering from anxiety, depression, self-doubt, fear, worry, loneliness, low self-esteem, anger? Trinity Family Counseling Center can help.
Let’s face it—our emotions can get the better of any of us. Anxiety, depression, self-doubt, fear, worry, loneliness, low self-esteem, codependency, and anger are just a few of the emotional demons that rob us of our ability to experience joy, to be present in our day-to-day lives, and to engage with and love others to our fullest potential.
 
Each of the counselors at Trinity is experienced in helping clients identify and confront their emotional challenges through a wide range of therapeutic approaches. The first step toward change is always to develop an awareness of how your daily experiences trigger and perpetuate your negative thoughts about yourself or others, and then how those thoughts lead to your troubling emotional responses and—often times—inappropriate or unhealthy behaviors.
Counseling Insights and Articles About Emotional Management:
Confronting a Friend That Needs Mental Health Intervention, by Dave Papandrea
Mood Tip
: You Get to Choose Thinking That Fights Depression
, by Sherrie Darnell
Thoughts for Moving Through Painful Emotions, by Liza Hinchey
Moms: Can Your Empty Nest Grow Full Again?, by Deb Toering
Compare and Despair, by Sherrie Darnell
Is It Me?  Maladaptive Coping Strategies in the Fire Service, by Dave Papandrea

Waiting for the Sun: Shining a Light on Seasonal Depression, by Sherrie Darnell
Understanding The Roots Of Perfectionism, by Liza Hinchey
The Mind-Body Connection: Nutrition Strategies for Anxiety​, by Liza Hinchey
Help! I Can’t Stop My Anxious Thoughts, by Deb Toering
Pregnancy During A Pandemic, by Kathy Cap
The "I Should" Mind Game, by Kathy Cap
The "Why" of Anxiety​, by Liza Hinchey
I'm So Tired Of Re-Thinking COVID...
, by Tonya Ratliff
Looking Forward To 2021, by Deb Toering
Social Re-Engagement Anxiety, by Tonya Ratliff
In This Time Of Uncertainty..., by Kathy Cap
The Mask Of Anger, by Deb Toering
Is That Bully Still Beating You Up?, by Deb Toering
Conflict Is So Hard At Times!, by Wendy Warner
When the Other Shoe Drops…, by Tonya Ratliff
The Thieves Who Silence Us, by Deb Toering
Emotional Consequences of Job Loss, by Tonya Ratliff
What Are You Thinking About?, by Wendy Warner
Is My Way Always the Best Way?, by Wendy Warner
Confronting Your Perfectionism, by Tonya Ratliff
How Can I Stop Worrying?, by Deb Toering
How Are You Managing Your Emotional World?, by Tonya Ratliff

Confronting a Friend That Needs Mental Health Intervention: What to Look for and What You Can Do

9/18/2023

 
by Dave Papandrea, LLC, NCC
A professional counselor at Trinity Family Counseling can help you or a friend process emotional trauma and seek healthy ways to cope and work through the devastation that’s been done.Picture
Dave Papandrea is a Limited Licensed Counselor (LLC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. Dave’s personal counseling philosophy is that he is a traveler on YOUR journey.  He believes YOU are the expert of you, and that the power of change is already within you.  It is his goal to walk with you on your journey to wellness, allowing you to lead at your own pace, hoping to point out items in your blind spots along the way.
​Physical injuries are a blessing when compared to mental traumas that we suffer.  Typically, contusions offer discoloration, fractures offer deformity, and lacerations requiring stitches present with obvious needs for medical intervention.  But when our psyche has been trucked by the emotional trauma that accompanies life, there is no outward bleeding, life’s bruises are not as apparent on the mind, and there is no angulated fracture on an x-ray to finger.  Imagine the damage we can cause an untreated break if we continue through life bearing full weight on it.  Apply the same to our psyche.  Here are four ways to identify mental injuries in people we are close to, and two ways we can intervene.
 
1)      Loss of Interest:  Sometimes when we experience pain, we make a concerted effort not to re-experience that pain.  Think about a sprained ankle.  We limp and favor that leg until the pain is not as intense.  We use crutches to completely eliminate the full weight of everyday life.  People will immobilize their legs on a scooter, and they roll around completely avoiding using the limb.  Similarly, when someone suffers a mental injury, they become avoidant.  Things that were once pleasurable will lose their flavor.  They work to avoid being in a place that may exacerbate the pain they experience, no differently than with a bad leg.  An individual with a mental injury may recluse, so as to avoid people, believing that it will help ease the pain they experience.
 
2)      Changes to Appetite:  There are times when pain (physical and mental) becomes so intense that some experience major changes to their appetite.  Loss of appetite seems obvious.  How can someone think about food in a time of intense pain.  However, the brain’s pleasure pathway is activated by eating.  When the brain is experiencing depressed mood or worse, it will try to right the ship.  Hits of dopamine, which is released during oral intake, is one way to bring about temporary relief.  Salty, fatty, sugary foods all activate the pleasure pathway of the brain.  Any changes to appetite could be an indicator.
 
3)      Self-Medication:  The brain will seek to self-regulate itself using substances, both legal and illicit.  During periods of mental suffering the brain is very interested in relief.  In the absence of effective coping strategies and / or prescribed psychotropics, the brain will take whatever it can get.  Experimenting with substances may, albeit maladaptively, bring about a feeling of temporary relief from mental anguish.  A more obvious indicator of psychological pain is changes in use of substances.  But what about someone who uses legal substances like alcohol, tobacco, marijuana, even food??  The answer to the question is twofold.  First, has there been a change?  Second, is there any utility in the person’s usage?  An example of utility would be drinking to relax or forget.
 
4)      Changes in Relationships:  It is hard to pour into relationships with others when our inner world is on the ropes.  You may not know the pain people are experiencing psychologically, but you can tell something is off in the relationships they hold.  Texting and calling becomes infrequent or messages go unanswered.  As previously mentioned, people recluse and stop participating in activities, groups, or events with others.  There is a feeling of “distance” in the relationship.  Conflict may arise where there had previously been none.  These symptoms combined with any of the others begin to paint a picture of someone who is struggling internally.
 
How do we intervene and help our friends, colleagues, and family through difficult times when they suffer from a mental injury?
 
1)      Self-Disclosure:  Misery truly loves company!  Sharing your experiences and related feelings may help people feel more “normal”.  Abnormal situations bring about abnormal responses in people.  AND THAT’S TOTALLY NORMAL!  But people don’t feel normal.  In fact, people tend to feel the opposite, wondering if they are the only ones who have ever felt this way.  Providing disclosure and normalizing the individual's response greatly reduces their risk of more complicated feeling expressions down the road.
 
Elevate the Conversation:  If we needed a referral for a good primary care physician, we could probably post the inquiry to social media and get dozens of responses.  Everyone seems to have a primary care physician for a physical or for the sniffles.  But what happens when our psyche encounters one of life’s little hiccups?  A desperate search for a counselor with openings ensues… sometimes.  More often than not we endure the pain hoping time will heal the wound.  But there is a better way.  If we talked about our mental injuries as pragmatically as we talked about a twisted ankle, the concept of treatment would not be such a mystery.  Openly discussing distressing times, like the death of a loved one, and the excellent therapist that walked with you through your grief helps to plant a seed for those who are suffering.  You help to normalize the grief process, including working with mental health professionals, when you pragmatically describe your experience in counseling as if you were seeing the PA at your doctor’s office.  The more casually we talk about our experiences with mental health, the more the conversation is elevated in the circles of the people we love.


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  • Home
  • Areas of Specialization
    • Christian Counseling
    • Emotional Management
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    • Parenting Counseling
    • Children and Adolescents Counseling
    • ADHD Counseling
    • Groups
  • Our Counselors
    • Tonya Ratliff
    • Deb Toering
    • Wendy Warner
    • Liza Hinchey
    • Dave Papandrea
    • Sherrie Darnell
    • Shelley Kruszewski
    • Jodi Walny, Intern
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