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ADHD

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Our fast-paced lives and love for technology tends to make us all a little distracted, and as many say, “I am so ADD”. But what is it, really, and what causes it? Some mistakenly believe it is due to poor parenting skills, the social environment, or a lack of self-discipline. It is due to none of these, but rather stems from a neurological problem: a deficiency of two neurotransmitters in the brain.
 
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder is an impairment of the brain’s executive functions. It  presents differently but most experience one or all of the following symptoms:
  1. Inattention: difficulty staying on task, sustaining focus and keeping organized.
  2. Hyperactivity: moving about constantly or fidgeting, tapping or talking too much. Difficulty falling asleep or general restlessness
  3. Impulsivity: acting or speaking without thinking. Difficulty with self-control. A desire for immediate rewards. Interrupting others. Making decisions without thinking about long-term consequences.

Left untreated, these conditions can result in underachievement, failed relationships, depression and low self-esteem. Often adults who are diagnosed later in life feel a tremendous amount of relief: they finally have an explanation for many of their life-long struggles.
 
If you are feeling overwhelmed and struggling in any of the areas mentioned above, or are witnessing these challenges in your child’s life, we are here to help you unravel the complex disorder of ADHD.
Counseling Insights and Articles About ADHD
Help! My College Student with ADHD is Giving Up, by Deb Toering
Connecting the Dots After an ADHD Diagnosis, by Deb Toering
A Parent’s Desperate Cry for HELP! The ADHD Connection to Missing Homework Assignments, by Deb Toering
Why Can't You Ever Be On Time?, by Deb Toering
The Relief And Grief Of An ADHD Diagnosis, by Deb Toering
Tackling The Mundane With An ADHD Brain, by Deb Toering
Help!  My Child With ADHD Needs Friends, by Deb Toering
Help!  My Child Has ADHD!!
, by Deb Toering
The Havoc of ADHD in Marriage, by Deb Toering
A Day With ADHD, by Deb Toering
ADHD Without the “H”, by Deb Toering
Help! My Spouse Has ADHD!!, by Deb Toering
I’ll Get to That Tomorrow…, by Deb Toering
“Just Try Harder”, by Deb Toering

HELP! My College Student with ADHD is Giving Up

6/12/2023

 
by Deb Toering, LPC, NCC, BCPCC
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Deb Toering is a Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor (BCPCC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with a wide range of client populations and presenting issues, Deb is also an engaging public speaker. She has spoken in front of various groups across a range of topics including marriage, bullying, ADHD/ADD, and teen leadership.
You are concerned about your college student.

He doesn’t seem to be engaged with school; not talking about his classes. You know he has early classes but based on his lack of response to your text messages, you are sensing he is sleeping in instead. The first semester seemed to go okay; although still, you feel he is underachieving. How is a parent to understand an adult child who seems to have so much potential yet seemingly is wasting his time and your money?
 
Many college students with ADHD “fall apart” when they go off to college. Why?
 
If they are taking medication, they may not be taking it consistently. They may have never learned the skills needed to do school, skating by without even studying much in high school. They are on their own; without anyone waking them up to make it to those early classes or checking in to see how the homework is going. People with ADHD have extreme difficulty regulating their sleep. Because they cannot shut down their very active brains, they stay up late and are unable to wake up early. The planning, organization and follow through required to work on long term projects and assignments can be extremely challenging.
 
These students may start off with good intentions but if they see no purpose in their studies, or are lacking interest, they will easily just give up. Things begin to pile up and overwhelm takes over, leading to inaction and then shame.  The shame keeps them from reaching out for help and so avoidance seems to be the easy solution.
 
What is the answer to all of this heartache?
 
It is helpful to understand how the ADHD brain is wired; what are its strengths and weaknesses.  A counselor who understands ADHD can help with understanding what went wrong and find specific areas to work on with the student. Some students can benefit greatly from career counseling. Finding a clear sense of direction and passion for studies is what will be helpful for the student to persist, not only in school but in life.
 
A “failed” school year can be a blessing in disguise if it results in a clearer understanding of the role ADHD has played, what went wrong and how to make the necessary changes for success. One semester need not define the rest of life.


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