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Remarriage and Blended Families

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The decision to remarry—to take that leap of faith again—can feel exciting, renewing, anxiety-provoking, and scary all at the same time! After all, you never imagined divorcing the first time, right?? Talking with a competent relationship counselor can assist you both in recognizing the mistakes that you do not want to repeat. Counseling can also provide both parties accountability for the promises of change that you have made as a result of this blessing of a second chance at marital happiness.

And, if there are children involved…

The decision to remarry and bring together children from previous relationships requires adults who are patient, realistic, and able to selflessly prioritize the needs and feelings of each of their children—together. There are considerable challenges in learning to love someone else’s child(ren), managing the logistics of multiple custody and visitation schedules, and facing the harsh reality that the kids haven’t all “fallen in love” too!

The consideration and effort exerted on behalf of the kids will assure each one of them of their value in their new blended family. The opportunity to process and address these issues - with the assistance of an experienced family counselor - can greatly enhance the blending of “yours and mine.”

Counseling Insights and Articles About Remarriage and Blended Families:

Step Mothering: Entering The World Of Another Woman's Child, by Tonya Ratliff
Part-Time Fathering: The Odd Dad Out, by Tonya Ratliff
Remarrying? What About the Kids?, by Tonya Ratliff
“One Big Happy, Crazy, Accepting, Blended Family”
, by Tonya Ratliff
Blended (?) Families, by Tonya Ratliff

Remarrying? What About The Kids?

1/10/2018

 
by Tonya Ratliff, LPC, ACS
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Tonya Ratliff is the Owner and Director of Counseling Services for Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to her individual, couple, and family clients, Tonya is also the lead facilitator of the Walk With Me Grief Support Group, an aftercare program sponsored by Wm. Sullivan and Son Funeral Home in Utica, MI.​
Let’s imagine that you have healed from divorce, spent considerable time adjusting to life as a single co-parent with your ex, and have finally begun to consider your own future with someone new. As you begin dating again, you realize that most of the people you meet are also parents themselves.

Now let’s imagine that after a considerable amount of time dating, and discussing all that you each want to do differently the second time around, you conclude that you have found “the one,” and you begin to seriously consider a long-term future together.

You’ve likely introduced the children, had some fun experiences, and shared a few memorable beginnings together as a new “family.” Seems like it’s all going to work out, right?

Well, this is where it gets messy, because those exciting feelings of new love often cloud each parent’s ability to recognize the very real challenges their future will hold for their children.

As a family counselor working with blended families, I often witness parents respond with shock when they begin to address the challenges of loving someone else’s child(ren), managing the logistics of multiple custody and visitation schedules, and facing the harsh reality that their kids haven’t all “fallen in love” too!

This situation requires adults who are patient, realistic, and able to selflessly prioritize the needs and feelings of each of their children--together. The consideration and effort exerted on behalf of the kids will assure each of them of their value in their new blended family.


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  • Areas of Specialization
    • The Counseling Process
    • Christian Counseling
    • Anxiety and Depression
    • Self-Care
    • Relationships and Marriage
    • Grief and Loss
    • Family Counseling
    • Divorce
    • Remarriage and Blended Families
    • Parenting Counseling
    • Children and Adolescents Counseling
    • ADHD Counseling
    • Counseling for First Responders
    • Grief Group - Free to the Community
  • Our Counselors
    • Tonya Ratliff
    • Deb Toering
    • Wendy Warner
    • Liza Hinchey
    • Dave Papandrea
    • Sherrie Darnell
    • Shelley Kruszewski
    • Brian Perry
  • Fees for Services
  • LLC Supervision