Deb Toering is a Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor (BCPCC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with a wide range of client populations and presenting issues, Deb is also an engaging public speaker. She has spoken in front of various groups across a range of topics including marriage, bullying, ADHD/ADD, and teen leadership.
How can a child who is so full of life, energy, fun and creativity cause you, as his parent, to feel so exhausted, frustrated and angry? A child with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) can bring both delight and despair.
The incessant talking, constant movement and inability to settle down at night to sleep can be exhausting. He may have a laser focus on what he loves to do, but the struggle to complete homework may be a battle you are tired of fighting. Even when the homework gets done, it is often forgotten under his bed or left in his backpack. You know his grades do not reflect his ability. You are weary of hearing things like, “Johnny is underachieving. If only he tried harder,” from his teachers.
You probably have felt criticized by other parents who hint at things like, “if he only had more discipline.” Your frustration goes beyond words. His room is a disaster. You are angry when after you tell him to clean it, he surfaces hours later all excited about the new Lego robot he just created (which really is AMAZING). Nagging isn’t working. Your child is not disobedient. He really doesn’t hear you at times and is easily distracted.
Parenting a child with ADHD does not have to be an exhausting, frustrating, and lonely journey. There is help. You may want to start with an ADHD counselor who understands your child’s unique wiring and can help him—and you—achieve success.