Clearing up Counseling Misconceptions

by Wendy Warner, LPC, NCC

Wendy Warner is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with couples, children, and individuals, Wendy also enjoys teaching the premarital classes for all couples planning to marry at Immanuel Lutheran Church, Macomb.

Someone recently wished me a good day as a counselor with, “Give good advice!” It struck me that many people may see that as the role of a counselor. I have also heard spouses share their partner’s reluctance to join couples counseling because, “They don’t need someone to tell them what to do.” There are many reasons to go to a counselor and benefits to gain from the experience. However, the role of a counselor is actually not to give advice.
 
Here are some reasons to seek counseling you may not have thought of:

• Talking to someone that is objective, caring and skilled at listening to what is troubling you can provide relief as you process how you want to move forward.
• Processing a difficult matter with someone you trust to keep it confidential when you are not ready to share it with family members or friends.
• Seeking insight of someone trained to help you cope with the issue that brought you to counseling whether it be anxiety, depression, marital problems, grief, parenting, anger, etc.
• Gaining the facilitating skills of a counselor to keep family or couple discussions calmer and more productive.
• Finding someone for a struggling child, adolescent or teen to talk to in a safe, confidential place.

 
Each of these examples is about developing a relationship with a trusted counselor that allows you to process your issue in a safe setting that promotes insight and growth.
 
Thinking about it? Give it a try.