Curiosity may kill the cat, but like fresh air, exercise, and healthy food, it can be life giving to our bodies, souls, minds, and relationships. Curiosity, however, can lead to trouble, especially in relationships, if it is inspired by ill motives rather than love and a desire for connection. We could all learn from a little child who repeatedly asks “why?” out of genuine curiosity about the world and a desire to understand it.
How might we and our world benefit from the cultivation of this wonderful quality?
Our bodies need healthy food, exercise, and rest. The curious person is willing to consider new ways of eating healthier foods with also a commitment to lay aside bad habits of unhealthy eating. A dance class can inspire new ways of moving and experiencing music. How about trying a new sport? Be curious about what others are doing for fun. We might just end up healthier and with more energy along with finding new ways to play and connect with others.
Our souls along with our bodies need to be fed. Being curious about God and how others experience Him and grow in their faith journey can inspire us in our own spiritual journeys. Talking with those who believe differently can help us not only understand them better, but prompt us to dig deeper into our own beliefs, strengthening our own personal convictions.
Curiosity inspires a sense of awe and wonder about the beauty and diversity of our world. Books, podcasts, and film all engage our minds. Intentional conversations that engage others in respectful ways can challenge our own ways of thinking.
Curiosity may be the key to breaking down the walls that divide us if we are willing to open ourselves up and truly listen. What are the passions of others? Why? Your son loves metal music, so take a listen. A friend returns from a trip of a lifetime and cannot stop talking about it. Ask to see her pictures and tell you the highlights. Your sister is an artist. Look at her work. Ask questions about what inspires her work and what does she hope to convey through her art? Make it a point when you meet someone new to ask not only what they do for a living, but what they like and dislike about their work. Ask what they do outside of work that makes them happy. Curiosity does not make assumptions, but rather asks questions. Curiosity listens to understand, not to elevate one’s own thoughts.
We all long to be known, understood, loved, and respected. Can you imagine what our world and relationships might look like if each of us began to develop this wonderful quality?
If you find curiosity difficult, a professional counselor may be able to help you unlock some of the reasons why.
