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Parenting

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There are a lot of forces working against us as parents today. There is peer influence, poor examples of family life in the homes of our kids’ friends, movies, television, video games, social media, the internet, advertising, and the instant gratification that comes from the ability to communicate with anyone at any time via texting. The decline in the moral fiber of our society further encourages our kids to be self-centered, self-indulgent, and focused on what they can get or take from others, rather than what they can offer or give to others.
 
The truth is - BEING A PARENT IS HARD WORK. And being a good parent is A LOT of hard work. Effective parenting requires placing the needs of others before your own, unwavering commitment, perseverance, and teamwork—which, often times, is NOT a given between the parents. Our parenting efforts often go unacknowledged and unappreciated, and much of the time, can feel like an absolutely thankless job.
 
You know your child best. But resistance and animosity from your child can cloud your objectivity, and limit your ability to sort out the appropriate course of action as a parent. Perspective and guidance from an experienced counselor can go a long way toward improving those skills we all thought would come naturally when we were blessed with a child in our lives.

Counseling Insights and Articles About Parenting:

Child Development and Supporting Children in Today’s Churches, by Dave Papandrea
The Invaluable Influence of Parents, by Wendy Warner
Will You Be Using Anyone’s Name Today?
, by Sherrie Darnell
Loving Your Teenage Girl Well, by Deb Toering
Encourage A Child Today, by Wendy Warner
Humble Listening = Productive Communication, by Wendy Warner
Acceptance Versus Comparison, by Wendy Warner
Can A Pandemic Bring About Positive Change?, by Wendy Warner
Parents: What Are You Sowing And Reaping?, by Wendy Warner
Are You Clothed In Kindness?, by Wendy Warner
Conflict Is So Hard At Times!, by Wendy Warner
Understanding Your Teen's Love Language, by Wendy Warner
Embracing Your Teen’s Journey to Independence, by Wendy Warner
Emotional Awareness is Key – Even for Children, by Tonya Ratliff
Please Listen to Me, Don’t Dismiss Me, by Wendy Warner
Note to Parents: Just Be There, by Tonya Ratliff
Play… It’s Good for the Soul, by Wendy Warner
R.E.S.P.E.C.T. Find Out What It Means to Parenting, by Wendy Warner
What Every Child Needs a Little More Of…, by Wendy Warner
Stop the Bully: How to Empower Your Child, by Deb Toering
Stop The Bully: How To Empower Your Child [VIDEO], by Deb Toering
Letting Go, by Deb Toering
The Importance of Positive Moments for a Child, by Wendy Warner
Surviving in a House of Chaos: Take Back Control With Effective Parenting, by Tonya Ratliff
Surviving in a House of Chaos: Implementing Structure, by Tonya Ratliff
Surviving in a House of Chaos: Maintaining Consistency, by Tonya Ratliff
Surviving in a House of Chaos: Managing Expectations, by Tonya Ratliff
Surviving in a House of Chaos: Take Back Control [VIDEO], by Tonya Ratliff

Letting Go

2/19/2025

 
by Deb Toering, LPC, BCPCC, ADHD-CCSP
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​Deb Toering is a Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor (BCPCC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with a wide range of client populations and presenting issues, Deb is also an engaging public speaker. She has spoken in front of various groups across a range of topics including marriage, bullying, ADHD/ADD, and teen leadership.
How did this happen so fast? Tomorrow you will take your daughter to college. “Wait! Please, could we have just a little more time? One more lunch together? Just one more late night on-the-bed talk?”

The ‘what ifs’ are endless and keep you awake at night. “What if an immature college boy breaks her heart? …and I am not there to comfort her? What if the academic load is too stressful? …and I am not there to encourage her? What if she doesn’t find ‘good’ friends? …and feels lonely? Are my fears normal?” Yes! “Are these intense emotions of sadness and loss natural?” Yes! These feelings and more are all a part of the natural process we parents go through called letting go.

Letting go means releasing your grip or to stop holding on. “But who will hold on if I let go?” Could it be that the One who really holds her loves her more than you? She will need your encouragement to look to the One who can hold her all the time, the One who never goes to sleep and is never too busy. The One who says, “For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, ‘Fear not, I am the One who helps you.’” [Isaiah 31:13]

Go ahead, loosen that grip. She is in Good Hands!


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  • Areas of Specialization
    • The Counseling Process
    • Christian Counseling
    • Anxiety and Depression
    • Self-Care
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    • Family Counseling
    • Divorce
    • Remarriage and Blended Families
    • Parenting Counseling
    • Children and Adolescents Counseling
    • ADHD Counseling
    • Counseling for First Responders
    • Grief Group - Free to the Community
  • Our Counselors
    • Tonya Ratliff
    • Deb Toering
    • Wendy Warner
    • Liza Hinchey
    • Dave Papandrea
    • Sherrie Darnell
    • Shelley Kruszewski
    • Brian Perry
  • Fees for Services
  • LLC Supervision