Debbie Caine a Limited Licensed Professional Counselor (LLPC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. She completed her Master’s degrees in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Oakland University, and works with individuals, couples, families, and groups across a range of presenting issues.
As a species, we are all created for connection and we have a basic human need to belong.
We learn this fact from the time we are young and as we age. In the Ted Talk entitled, What Makes a Good Life?, there are lessons learned from an ongoing 75-year Harvard study on happiness. The study revealed that good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Lessons taken from the research conclude that individuals that are more socially connected to family, friends, and community are happier, physically heathier, and live longer.
It is NOT the number of friends that you have or even if you are in a committed relationship, but it IS the quality of your close relationships that matter. Living in the warmest relationships proves to be protective.
Good relationships and connections don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains. People in relationships that feel they can count on each other in times of need benefit greatly. What are the challenges and obstacles to achieving these healthy connections?
Perhaps we need to notice changes we can make daily to improve our relationships and provide opportunities. Some changes may mean that we pay attention and trade screen time for people time. If you find that you are lonelier than you would like to be, consider talking to a professional counselor who can help you sort it out.
“Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” John 15:13