Deb Toering is a Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor (BCPCC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with a wide range of client populations and presenting issues, Deb is also an engaging public speaker. She has spoken in front of various groups across a range of topics including marriage, bullying, ADHD/ADD, and teen leadership.
Putting off the difficult things is something we all do. For some, it is a regular cycle of defeat and shame, negatively affecting relationships, work, finances, physical and mental health. “Lazy” or “incompetent” are labels often attached to procrastinators. So why do some continue in such destructive behavior?
For many with Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD/ADHD), procrastination is the go-to M.O. The brain is stimulated when it is interested, under the pressure of a deadline or facing the threat of a major consequence. The mundane things of life like paperwork or cleaning are the kinds of tasks the ADHD brain tends to want to “put off” to do something more stimulating. ADHD and procrastination tend to go hand in hand. It is important to understand the “why” but never use it as an excuse. Medication helps with motivation but isn’t a miraculous cure. Lifelong habits need an aggressive and intentional approach.
The key is: DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
SET A TIMER – Just 10 minutes allows you to begin tackling that boring pile of paperwork.
MOMENTUM – Doing the next thing propels you forward. Making that first call gives you the momentum to go on to the next.
ACCOUNTABILITY – Text an accountability partner when you are going to start a difficult project and then text when you are finished.
HAVE FUN – Challenge yourself by beating your last record for minutes taken to empty the dishwasher.
START SOMEWHERE! A coach or counselor may be just what you need to succeed.