Wendy Warner is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with couples, children, and individuals, Wendy also enjoys teaching the premarital classes for all couples planning to marry at Immanuel Lutheran Church, Macomb.
I like to run.
I don’t go far, but I enjoy it. Toward the halfway point, there is a hill that usually leaves me struggling for air. I've noticed if I look far up the road and focus on the hill, it seems more daunting, even discouraging. If I focus on the road just in front of me, I don’t notice the incline nearly as much. I can take it one step at a time and reach my goal. There are stretches of hot sun and shade on the road. Rather than dread the sun, I celebrate reaching the shady spots and feeling some relief. Sometimes I need to walk a short bit to catch my breath. I tell myself that a woman in her 50’s is allowed to take a breather here and there.
It occurred to me my running route is a lot like life. If I choose to focus on difficulties in the future, I will struggle more and feel discouraged. Or, I could handle what life has for me today, one step at a time. If I dread the hard days, they will probably be hard. You tend to find what you look for. Or, I could look for the good in each day and appreciate the people and situations that are part of that.
Sometimes life gets overwhelming, and we might need extra support or a break. It’s important to be gentle with ourselves, not critical, until we are ready to push forward again.