Wendy Warner is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) in private practice at Trinity Family Counseling Center. In addition to working with couples, children, and individuals, Wendy also enjoys teaching the premarital classes for all couples planning to marry at Immanuel Lutheran Church, Macomb.
In this pandemic quarantine we are experiencing loss in multiple ways. The impact this pandemic is having on so many is hard, and for brides and grooms it’s especially difficult. After months of planning, saving and dreaming of their wedding day, they are having to cancel, postpone or scale it back to immediate family. It is a lot of effort to plan a wedding, and the sudden cancellation of it is justifiably painful. However, this situation might also present an opportunity.
When a couple moves closer to their wedding day, discussions tend to focus on wedding details. What is often missed is how they are doing in their relationship. How do they communicate and resolve issues? Are they able to discuss hurt and misunderstandings that occur? Do they feel emotionally connected or dismissed and discounted? Are there healthy boundaries for both families equally or is one set of parents running over the couple? Unfortunately, as the wedding approaches, these concerns get pushed to the back burner to be addressed later, if at all.
Although the cancellation of the big event brings its own stress, hopefully it allows the focus to return to their relationship. How do they handle disappointment? Are they still excited to get married without the big party? Do they feel supported by the other in their stress? No matter when you are getting married, if you recognize your relationship could use some help, please reach out to a professional for pre-marital counseling.
Healthy and long-lasting relationships are more important than beautiful weddings.